Sheesh, can 2010 be any more manic? New job, marriage, Madagascar, World Cup, exams, Britney being the most followed on Twitter - a boy can only handle so much excitement. Suffice to say, my time has been totally consumed. I've spent the last month walking around in a daze of euphoria - in love, content and grateful.
I know I have much to catch up on. I'll do seperate posts about the wedding and honeymoon. They deserve many, many pictures (and the odd video?) but for now, I have to say how grateful I am for those who embraced two men getting married so easily and showered us with so much love. We couldn't invite everyone to the wedding - in fact, by many standards the gathering was tiny - but the amount of love and congratulations we have received through the many social media sites and elsewhere has been incredible.
It's nice to know that people can be happy for you, even if they can't reconcile what you are doing with their truths. Allowing people to live in their truth, even when it's not your own, is a great gift to give someone.
I am especially grateful when I look at what's happening in Malawi. My heart aches for the two men who bravely stood up to their laws and received the severest penalty they could receive. As an African I am embarrassed. As a human I am outraged. As a gay man I am distressed.
I'm not sure how I can be a part of stopping this kind of abuse in Africa. I'm not sure how I can stop lesbians from being murdered in my own country. All I know is I can't be silent. And I hope many more stand up to be heard so that action can follow. I believe in dialogue, always will. And I believe in humanising what others see as a "type". A tiny attempt at militance in a battle that's fueled by ignorant beliefs and religious self-righteousness.
So, with that in mind, I realise we live in an incredible country. I do not take being married to FJ for granted, and am extremely grateful to those who fought before me so I could express my love for a man openly and without harm.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnyyyywaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyy...
I'll post pics of the wedding and Madagascar soon. There's even a pic of FJ in a speedo that I know you'll enjoy...
6 comments:
What - none of you in your speedo - such a shame!
Glad you're back.
Go read my blog dear xx
Oh, welcome back, glad it was fun. Even gladder I could celebrate with you. There's something amazing about being in a place like that, so permeated with love x
Hey!
Its good to hear your voice again.
And you sound just the same as you did before you were married.
Go figure!
Ahem... I'm not sure you should post 'that' picture... There are many many nice ones without speedo's at the ready.
*blushes and grins sheepishly*
And then onto Malawi:
I mailed you a letter which I sent to the Malawi High Comissioner. Scrappintimes sent out the mail addy and (I think because of your voice in this blog and in real life) I could not stand idly by. It's not really enough to send a simple e-mail, but it is a start.
We are lucky to be in this country where our rights are enshrined in the constitution. But, I have a very strong sense that todays up-and-coming tri-partite, bigwigs are not as broad minded.
So until we are nearly universally viewed as just another thread in the fabric of this countries already disparate societies, we should be at our guard. We should be-aware of errosions of rights that will not likely start by active repeals of laws, but rather by limp wristed responses to hate in all its forms. Silence is our greatest enemy.
Your voice is important to so many people. It articulates 'us' in such a real way that it changes minds and opens doors to understanding that were there were once only walls.
Believe it!
*hugs* and *kisses*
FJ
Welcome back Mr Married! So nice to hear from you again. Looking forward to those pics ;)
soak it up and enjoy! Great to hear from you xoxo
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